I'm glad you were inspired to write this based on your ADHDversary. The "trying to make difficult people be good to you" piece was like a frying pan to the forehead. And being good at dealing with problematic personalities puts you on the firing line so often because others are more than happy for you to be the snake charmer. I always appreciate your candor and your willingness to share your insights. It feels like we're all fighting to free ourselves of our deepest rooted shit of late, perhaps a decade of slow burning unrest topped by the last 73 days of roiling dumpster fire has put the thinking/feeling people on high speed betterment? Just looking for wins where I can them. ♥️
Wow, that blew my mind too. It certainly explains a lot. I have ADHD too and often get things wrong (especially according to my mother, who, by the way, looks at me suspiciously when I mention my diagnosis). Thank you for sharing your story x
Hi, Kari. There was a post on Threads yesterday about controlling mothers. I really wanted to comment - but my Mum is on the platform. I’m not sure she will learn about ADHD, and she still thinks she can bend the world to her will. And even at 56yo I still ask “how high?” if she says “jump”. I know I can’t change her but I can change the way I react but, after so many years of conditioning, that’s so hard. Thank you for taking time to reply to me.
It really is. I can’t seem to do right for doing wrong. I am trying to set some boundaries because I don’t think I can go full no contact with her. Thank you so much for your support. I still get goosebumps when I remember your article which included Troy. It broke my heart 💔 I do hope that you are thriving now and getting to grips with your ADHD diagnosis ❤️
I'm glad you were inspired to write this based on your ADHDversary. The "trying to make difficult people be good to you" piece was like a frying pan to the forehead. And being good at dealing with problematic personalities puts you on the firing line so often because others are more than happy for you to be the snake charmer. I always appreciate your candor and your willingness to share your insights. It feels like we're all fighting to free ourselves of our deepest rooted shit of late, perhaps a decade of slow burning unrest topped by the last 73 days of roiling dumpster fire has put the thinking/feeling people on high speed betterment? Just looking for wins where I can them. ♥️
Total frying pan. Can’t wait to see you in two weeks 💕💕💕 we’ll celebrate our wins.
Wow, that blew my mind too. It certainly explains a lot. I have ADHD too and often get things wrong (especially according to my mother, who, by the way, looks at me suspiciously when I mention my diagnosis). Thank you for sharing your story x
Hi, Kari. There was a post on Threads yesterday about controlling mothers. I really wanted to comment - but my Mum is on the platform. I’m not sure she will learn about ADHD, and she still thinks she can bend the world to her will. And even at 56yo I still ask “how high?” if she says “jump”. I know I can’t change her but I can change the way I react but, after so many years of conditioning, that’s so hard. Thank you for taking time to reply to me.
Oh I totally get it. It’s so hard to have a mom like that. 💕
It really is. I can’t seem to do right for doing wrong. I am trying to set some boundaries because I don’t think I can go full no contact with her. Thank you so much for your support. I still get goosebumps when I remember your article which included Troy. It broke my heart 💔 I do hope that you are thriving now and getting to grips with your ADHD diagnosis ❤️
Thanks Suze! 💕 I’m sorry your mother is being dismissive. I hope she takes the time to learn about it.