This is really well done. Thank you for sharing. I had NO IDEA that physical pain wasn't just some sort of anxiety attack. It was an ever-present part of my life from middle school on, with zero explanation until I was 42. It's amazing what the change in perspective does for someone struggling with RSD, and I hope this finds someone(s) that needs it.
yeah, it is really wild to make sense of it. I was told for 30+ years that my problem was anxiety. While not inaccurate, it was FAR from the entire picture.
Same. I saw so much of myself in this. I grew up with a lot of anxiety, and I was a perfectionist and people pleaser above all else. I did not realize I had ADHD until after I had my daughter (she is turning 4 this month). Even my therapist always just thought I had anxiety (and a history of disordered eating). The way that you describe your husband going silent when angry is exactly the way that it happens with my husband too and explains a lot about why it makes me panic and assume it’s my fault he’s mad.
It really makes you wonder how many of us are out there. Undiagnosed millennial perfectionist ladies are LEGION. Ditto to the disordered eating, which I plan on discussing in a later post.
This is really well done. Thank you for sharing. I had NO IDEA that physical pain wasn't just some sort of anxiety attack. It was an ever-present part of my life from middle school on, with zero explanation until I was 42. It's amazing what the change in perspective does for someone struggling with RSD, and I hope this finds someone(s) that needs it.
yeah, it is really wild to make sense of it. I was told for 30+ years that my problem was anxiety. While not inaccurate, it was FAR from the entire picture.
Same. I saw so much of myself in this. I grew up with a lot of anxiety, and I was a perfectionist and people pleaser above all else. I did not realize I had ADHD until after I had my daughter (she is turning 4 this month). Even my therapist always just thought I had anxiety (and a history of disordered eating). The way that you describe your husband going silent when angry is exactly the way that it happens with my husband too and explains a lot about why it makes me panic and assume it’s my fault he’s mad.
It really makes you wonder how many of us are out there. Undiagnosed millennial perfectionist ladies are LEGION. Ditto to the disordered eating, which I plan on discussing in a later post.
Kari our stories are so similar. I'm so glad I came across this piece. Thank you for your honest, raw writing. I wrote a little bit about my experience with RSD over on my page and list some of the best interventions I've found. As someone who has it I would be curious to hear your thoughts on it :) https://open.substack.com/pub/laurhudson/p/the-4-step-rsd-survival-guide-tackling?r=38b92l&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web