Whew thank you for this post. I spent the weekend with my college roommate, her husband, my sister and our 5 kids age 6 and under a couple weeks ago. It was chaos but having so many ND adults who have such a history together and were also able to jump in when the ND kids were having their big feelings was so amazing, I felt so supported! When I was 16 I wrote a poem in English called Beauty Queen Smile and I remember my teacher writing to me a comment about existentialism and a piece called We Wear the Mask. Feeling like too much is the hardest piece of ADHD for me and it is a very lonely feeling as a kid. My parents weren’t abusive in any way but I internalized my feelings of failure any time I couldn’t “get my life together” and I don’t feel like I had the help I needed learning emotional regulation skills until we were dealing with my oldest kid’s meltdowns when I was about 30.
I didn’t read this back when it was written, so Lizzy, I am happy to see you commenting here about all of us. That was a fun weekend. I hope we get to have more fun times with all of us together.
And I loved that poem- very existential. As your sister, I always felt like I knew you better than anyone else, and I was glad that you were able to be vulnerable with me in a way that you couldn’t be with many of our friends. Your poetry was way better than any poetry I ever wrote, I think I am more of a prose person.
Wow! First of all, you're a awesome writer. The story painted a complete picture of what it felt like to be in your shoes; anxious, overwhelmed and misunderstand (by yourself and others). I felt emotional anxiety rising in me as I read your story. Great job.
Secondly, I'm pleased to hear your progress! I look forward to reading more of your work.
I love your point about vulnerability here. Thank goodness for the friends who not only provide a safe space for us to be who we are, but ESPECIALLY for those who honor that safe space with every action. ❤️
Whew thank you for this post. I spent the weekend with my college roommate, her husband, my sister and our 5 kids age 6 and under a couple weeks ago. It was chaos but having so many ND adults who have such a history together and were also able to jump in when the ND kids were having their big feelings was so amazing, I felt so supported! When I was 16 I wrote a poem in English called Beauty Queen Smile and I remember my teacher writing to me a comment about existentialism and a piece called We Wear the Mask. Feeling like too much is the hardest piece of ADHD for me and it is a very lonely feeling as a kid. My parents weren’t abusive in any way but I internalized my feelings of failure any time I couldn’t “get my life together” and I don’t feel like I had the help I needed learning emotional regulation skills until we were dealing with my oldest kid’s meltdowns when I was about 30.
I didn’t read this back when it was written, so Lizzy, I am happy to see you commenting here about all of us. That was a fun weekend. I hope we get to have more fun times with all of us together.
And I loved that poem- very existential. As your sister, I always felt like I knew you better than anyone else, and I was glad that you were able to be vulnerable with me in a way that you couldn’t be with many of our friends. Your poetry was way better than any poetry I ever wrote, I think I am more of a prose person.
Wow! First of all, you're a awesome writer. The story painted a complete picture of what it felt like to be in your shoes; anxious, overwhelmed and misunderstand (by yourself and others). I felt emotional anxiety rising in me as I read your story. Great job.
Secondly, I'm pleased to hear your progress! I look forward to reading more of your work.
thank you so much! :)
I love your point about vulnerability here. Thank goodness for the friends who not only provide a safe space for us to be who we are, but ESPECIALLY for those who honor that safe space with every action. ❤️